Odd Even Formula for Cars in Delhi applies for Laundry at home also !

Memories of Laundry starts from when we were child. We have seen our mothers washing clothes with their own hands. I have seen her using Detergent soaps to rub the clothes. Their  hands have become rough with the time.

Earlier, it was considered as girls job to do this work while men used to go out for work. I don't want to go into if it was right or wrong.Washing of clothes has become much easy with time

Washing Machines has taken the place in all households doing all the hard work. That was what i used to think .But its not true .I have seen my wife often,  rubbing  few areas of clothes which had  got stains on it even after washing in machine .I asked her why , she told me : "Some stains stay back even after washing from Automatic washing machines".

That was the time I realized washing machine was not the complete solution unless you have a good detergent powder specifically made for Automatic washing machines.So it was right time for us to try out the Ariel Matic.

With Ariel Matic our household's #LaundryGoesOddEven. One of the reason which I feel made this odd even formula work out better was Ariel Matic's ability to remove even the tough stains. There was no need of extra effort in hand washing. Men will be Men, they can't learn years of expertise of Hand Wash in a day. Hand wash is a delicate task and we, inexperienced men, can apply extra force, extra powder  and tear the clothes apart. Thanks to Ariel Matic to give "The Men " the equal right and play an active role in helping  our beloved mother & wife. Ariel Matic has served as an equalizer.

I went to the washing area .Started filling water in machine .My wife saw this and was surprised at my gesture. She asked what are you doing? I told her today I will wash clothes for you and  you take rest .She replied instantly, "Are you  going back to your hostel life days ?". I said no, it is just helping and supporting you in sharing the work load . Her question made me realize that  I never  had an issue washing clothes when I was in hostel. But I never washed them when I was at home, either my wife or my mother washed them. Then I just asked the Question "Why is this " to myself & felt guilty. But then said lets forget past (Past is Past) lets work on present & future. :-) and make life and wife happy.

I was busy washing clothes on that specific day. My kid came running to me when i was  washing the clothes. He didn't gave any surprising look, may be because they are not educated/taught by the society on what we should do & what we shouldn't. Hopefully, he will remain the same once he grows up.

Note:-
I am taking part in the #LaundryGoesOddEven Challenge by Ariel India at BlogAdda.

Solid Start ke liye Solid Breakfast !!!

In the present lifestyle with so much of stress and work pressure, one needs something solid to start with. Nowadays, many of us when we wakeup we realize that we are going to be late to work. This realizations results in many of us hurrying for the work and at many times skipping the breakfast. This is more like you have start a round the globe journey half tank filled, which will not last for the complete distance of  a long day journey. As a result we get tired earlier than expected.

Not having a proper breakfast has been attributed to many reasons by many of us. One of the most common or popular reason is that we are in hurry or have no time or already late for work. All these reasons are just excuses. Kellogg's waale Guptaji is neither late to office nor he misses his yummy & tasty breakfast ever. Guptaji stays focused and keep working hard even when our momentum or energy is low or down. Guptaji stays energetic, active and full of ideas like a tiger even during the end hours of work, whereas many of guptaji's colleague becomes lazy and dump like a donkey. What is the reason of this? How Guptaji is able to all this physically and mentally while being cool and calm. How ? How ? How?

I have been curious to know the secret of Guptaji's energy, but couldn't find one. After trying to investigate and failing multiple times. I tried checking his bags, his work routine, even checking if someone is actually helping him complete those tons of work, but couldn't find one. Finally I decided I need to trace & track each & every activity Guptaji does in his whole day, from waking up to sleeping at night. After tracing him for few weeks, i realize it has to something to do with his breakfast. But whats that thing about his breakfast which makes him a super energetic, calm & composed man?

I needed to solve the puzzle. Few clues which I could get are

• Breakfast is prepare in close to 2 mins.
• Breakfast needed Kellogg's corn flakes, apples, sugar, cinnamon powder & milk.
• Breakfast was tasty as none of the family  member's ever resisted it and actually wanted more.
• Family ate breakfast together and looked like a "Happy N Healthy" family.
• Look of the food is also attractive and well made, which made even me hungry. Somehow I could take a snap of it from my spy Camera. It looked delicious.

Few of my informers also told me that many others are also trying to find out the secret of Kellogg's waale Guptaji Ka Nashta. Some are friends of Guptaji's daughter, some are teachers of Guptaji's son and some are neighbours of Guptaji. I need to go first and try this nice Family wala Nashta at Guptaji's house.

I need to go to Guptaji's house for nashta - which is so yummy, healthy, quicker and easier to make. I need to taste those Apple Cinnamon Cornflakes which keeps Guptaji active throughout the day with a great focus and calmness. I need to resolve and experience the mystery behind Guptaji's power.

Guptaji mujhe jaldi bullao aapke ghar nashta ke liye. ("Guptaji call me as early as possible for breakfast at your home").  Let me also get the solid Nashta for solid start of the day.

Guptaji mera number sabse pehle. Before all the folks in video below.

New Baby Arrival : New Hope, New Aspirations, New Responsibilities

Arrival of my baby, Akshaj, on 22nd Sept 2014 was one of event which along with bringing new responsibilities, it also brought new aspirations and hope.As a couple we had some issues but suddenly just the arrival of kid seems to have changed the complete dynamics of my relationship with my wife. Both of us has made Akshaj as center of our world. At the same time it has brought much better acceptance of each other with the strengths and weakness we possess as a couple.

Family Dynamics:- As a couple the time which we used to spend together has reduced, which may seem like a loss of independence. But at the same time, this small time which we share is now more special and their is a sense of need between both of us to make it much better. It has added a new spark to our married life and added a cherry on top of the mutual enjoyment which we used to have. Even the relationship between my wife and my mother has improved a lot, as both have started showering their love on the new infant (Probably have lesser time to quarrel). So arrival of the new baby has improved my family, which is more - happier, busier, enjoying and affectionate now.

Financial Needs:- Sense of new baby means that expenses of the family will increase. This has made me work harder and even look for more avenues to earn money. It has made me more optimistic and better focused. Now my work is being taken more seriously by me. Control on unnecessary expenses has increased. Financial planning for kids education is on mind. Overall, better organised financial planning is coming into the picture now.

More Efficient:- Doing more work at office, at the same time I want to return home faster to be with my kid. This has made me do more efficient work at office rather than wasting any time. I have started going to office on time and trying to be back at time rather than slog work at office. I depart and arrive at office based on my understanding of traffic conditions and time consumed. I have started ordering items on-line & get them home delivered to save time. Now, thinking to move home in April to save travel time in Bangalore, I #lookup to https://housing.com/lookup to get this better and easier. Overall, my efficiency has increased.

Back to Blogging:- During my wife's pregnancy, I somehow stopped blogging. But the arrival of my kid has changed something intrinsically which is making me blog again to express the happiness I am feeling now. Share the Happiness.

Feeling happy when back home:- Earlier when I used to be back home, I used to feel lethargic and used to feel drained. But this has completely changed. Just seeing the face of my baby, holding him, seeing a smile, just fills me with all the positivity and energy. My life is more positive and energetic now.

Hope for Future:- Now when I hope for a better future, I hope it as a family and I am looking up to address all such needs like financial security, housing, education, etc.

Pic of the Akshaj, my baby, who has changed my life for better. :-)

#StartANewLife My Way !!!

Everyone one has his own life and everyone acts differently in different circumstances. This actions paves way for new path of life, but its not necessary a new life. For me Starting a new life means when you make some decisions which changes the way you have lived for many years. The change is visible to all and is not just within you. Mine is such a story in which I have started a new life then ended that life and again started a new one.

I am a Marwadi belonging to a business family. For our family, at least for last 3 generations, the way has been to get a B.Com. degree and join business and be part of family business. Stay with the family, and doing a job as an employee was not an option at all. After my 10th exam, I took science much to the resistance of my family & big brothers. Which somehow many people let it be thinking that after XII th I will move to B.Com. For them science field was for people looking for job as an employee and they had a bias that I should join business. Once a appeared for Engineering competitive exams and told them the plans to join an engineering college away from home that was a shock for most of my family members. For most of us, business was the only way to go, so why even do engineering.

Business v/s Job

For engineering I had to move to kolkata, but for that I need to do lot of convincing at home. Even promising that If I don't like I will be back, etc. After all the convincing and making me look stubborn they had to agree. This was not just about to #StartANewLife. It was about #StartANewLife the way I want. Somehow I moved from my hometown to Kolkata. So one big wave of resistance was over. One more big Tsunami was about to come and it arrived sooner than I expected. I was staying in a hostel and all my hostel mates were Bengali. (I didn't knew Bengali) . Well they were fine with that. 

Veg v/s Non-Veg

But along with being a sole non-Bengali guy I was the sole vegetarian student in the hostel. Once they come to know that I will eat the food cooked along with non-veg food, all hell broke at home. They just wanted me back, period. At that time, I found an unexpected support from my Grand Father. He just told to all and took a stand that, let me try to build my life the way I want - no questions asked - with a condition that if I fail to make a great life out of it. I will just return to them and not hide. And I could continue my engineering, I used to travel to home during the weekends. 

When I look back to the stand taken by my grand father for me, even though he disliked my way. I realise two important lesson he taught me. One was to look up for new things the way you want and try to achieve it. Two, if you fail don't feel shy to talk about your failure and have a plan-B.

Look Up

After my engineering, I got selected for a campus placement. I am still working for software company in Bangalore. I completed my MBA too. Now I see few of my brothers also taking job and none is objecting. It also shows that when you #StartANewLife many others also emulate the same with lesser difficulty. So #StartANewLife is just not paving way for your desires but for others also. Now I feel proud of decision I took and my family is proud of me.

My life the way it would have been had I not taken a decision, would have been different. For my change my normal life to a my new life which was my way. It was different in multiple ways and many things I did first in my family

• First to do a Job and not join family business
• First to stay alone for studies outside my family's residence
• First to do Engineering
• First to do MBA
• First to go outside India
• First to stay in PG/hostel (Now its easier for all fo you to search the same using https://housing.com/, it was not that easy to find good PG/hostel in those days)

I feel good about being first in these. But at the same time, I also agree that there path of directly doing business was also good. Now I feel like starting a start-up which is also like doing a new business. I feel that I come to a round circle. But I have no regret, even if I #StartANewLife again as an entrepreneur, coz that new life will be life my way - the way I choose.

Improved Digital Skills may Solve many problems for India

"Digital Skills for India" is one of the good program which is launched by Intel. As part of this program Intel will work with government to educate across 1000 panchayats targeting 5 million citizens by end of 2015.

 Opinion: I support and am very happy with this programme being launched by Intel. "Digital skills for India" will help the complete ecosystem and improvise in the following respect.

1. Serve as digital seed in Rural India :
   
   
   
   Target to educate across 1000 panchayat mean that there will be many citizens with digital skills in rural area. Who can again impart this skills to other rural citizens. It will be kind of Bandwagon effect - in which rural citizens once they acquire the digital skills will be more effective, efficient and better informed compared to others. The others will then aspire to be more like digitally skilled and hence overall increase in digital education & skill. 
2. Reducing the Digital Divide :
   
    From demographic digital skills perspective, Indian citizens can be divided into two groups : Rural & Urban. Rural population is close to 70% as compared to 30% of the Urban population. Digital skills are way too low in rural area as compared to urban areas. Three main reasons for this are : accessibility, know how of usage & affordability. Intel & India Govt. plans address accessibility & know how issue. But they don't address the affordability as most of the rural folks can't afford ~ $20 internet connection per month. Initiatives similar to "Free Internet" by Facebook can be leveraged here. These initiatives hence are also reducing the digital divide and will convert pen & notebook to tablet & touch-pads.
3. Increase in the digitally skilled labour force:-  
   
   Digital education of the rural India will make india more #DigitalIndia by proportion. Rural population which is composed of 70% of population will help increase in digitally skilled labour force. This will help in reducing supply demand gap for skilled labour. At the same time, it will check the increasing cost of Digital labour. This will keep india competitive in the global market from the cost perspective also, considering the huge competition its observing from lower cost destinations like Philipines.
4. Increase in Market:  
   
   Increase of digital device users will automatically mean demand for more laptops & tablets and other digital devices. This will translated into addition of new demand which were not accessible earlier. Hence bigger market and better opportunities for industry. This is one such way in which companies like Intel will get their investment back in new #DigitalIndia.
5. Improve Economy :
   
   Rural population with digital skills will improve the efficiency of the economy by various ways. Informations related to Weather prediction, price of harvests in various markets, better storage and cultivation ways improving the yields, better access to government, medical facilities etc will greatly improve the efficiency of rural India. This in turns improves the efficiency of overall Indian economy as along with increased productivity it will reduce the loss / wastage and more responsive. 
6. New Local Innovations :-  
   
   New local rural innovations information will be available to wider community and many of such products could be mass produced or used by other needy citizens. One such example is Clay refrigerator - Mitti Cool. These rural innovations can increase the standard of Living in rural India. It will bring name, fame, money as well as better living for rural folks.
7. Reduce urban migration problem:-
   
   There is a big problem happening with rural population moving to urban areas and end up staying in slums. This is adding to more increase in unemployed population in cities as compared to new jobs being created. Most of the cities are not well planned and not capable of handling this huge surge of unemployed unskilled labour. This ends up into various social issues like child malnutrition, violence between local inhabitant and migrants, etc. Digital literacy in rural area will increase job opportunities and hence reduce the migration. This will help in checking the food insecurity problem.

Overall, Its a great initiative by Intel to achieve truly #DigitalIndia. Keep it up your initiatives.

New Arrival - Renewed #Optimism with the start of this new #journey #together

Whenever we start a new journey we are optimistic and as the journey becomes a daily affair slowly the enthusiasm dies and we just keep doing the same thing. At the start we look good, smart, eager to learn, energetic and as day passes by we turn dull. Its with every aspect of life. E.g. When I compare start of study in a new college as compared to the end of study or college life.

Does it mean that newness bring optimism? You can't always make everything new. You can't make new neighbours, you can't make new family, etc. Well, many times yes but you can't just doing new things to be optimistic. 

Optimism can also be rekindled by being #together with your loved ones. They can make you lookup in a very subtle way which is hard to recognise. They also bring the newness of desires and hence the optimism.

Last 22nd September 2014, I was blessed with a baby boy. We named him - Akshaj. Lifting him with my hands somehow triggered something inside me. I felt a need to work harder. I felt the love and affection feeling which I have never felt before. I felt that I need to be optimistic and do more for being together. Ahhh not just being together, being together HAPPILY. When I am going to office, just seeing him gives me strength and motivation to keep going on more than what I should. He provides me with the little nudge to keep motivated. Every day his new moves and growth makes me aspire for more. My Desires and plans are increasing. The plans include moving to a better decent affordable and nice place with good amenities and facilities for better growth of my kid. Housing.com is one such easy way through which I can get a good rented house now and later on buy a new property. Housing.com will help me make a house into a home. 

Being with Akshaj makes me realize that Better Things are Coming. Akshaj, my son, is like a happiness magnet for me. He makes me stay positive & optimistic. I observe the failures which he is facing now to even just sit. He is failing to sit for more than 1 minute even today. But everyday he will try to sit, he will fell down. He will try again. He will keep trying, until I will say that I have to go to office. I can see a never back down attitude even in a small infant who is not educated or motivated by sermons which is given through different texts & speeches. It makes me realize that I have to try more try harder and keep trying and not back down. He doesn't speak but his actions make me say that our biggest weakness lies in giving up. We need to learn a way to just keep trying once more. Being #together with Akshaj is making me #lookup and #optimistic for new & better future.

Every day being together with him is getting memorable for me. The most memorable day was on 22nd september 2014, when he came to my life and make me realise that I am here to make world better for me, him, family and overall. For this I need to keep trying without getting tired and without worrying to fail.

Go as far as you can for your love !!!

Is it good to travel extra mile for someone you love? How much extra mile you can or should travel? What are the implications of these extra steps?

So many questions kept arising in my mind... And complexities kept increasing as I thought more.

Everyone love someone and someone even does not know if they love anyone. But do one need to travel far to get closer to one's loved one?  Some of the situations which came to my mind made me feel, its not that easy to go too far.Lets think it from not just our perspective and say that "I will bring stars from the sky for my love" ...bla blah blah...

If you can't stay away from your love, just catch all the various means and reach him/her.If you can, "JUST FLY" and get closer. "Distance" & "Love" doesn't go well together for an ordinary men, its for the BOLD.

• Before you go far for someone you love, you have to know your love. To know your love you need to love many things. Even though we don't realize it so easily, but still we love so many things like our parents, our memories, our friends, nation, religion, work and so many things including loving our-self.

Lets take an example of Army Men.

Army Men's love and how far they go for their love :- 

An army men have love for his nation, his compatriots, his family and many other things. They may seem far in miles (distance), but they are much closer in terms of love (Heart).They are more likely to understand the true meaning of love. They go far for their love:

• They stay far from their loved ones (family) to save another loved one (their motherland). They guard our boundaries and protect all the people / citizens of the nation.

• When they are far from their family, they are really far. Most of them can't just reach & see their family even from a distance. They just can't do video chat like most of us do.

• Sacrificing safety of their own family when guarding that of other's family.

• Missing the most important events of their life. Sometimes even their child's birth and most importantly all the memories which can be cherished for life long.

• Sacrificing their own life, for our motherland's future at the same time risking the future of their own family.

CAN ANYONE GO AS FAR AS THEY GO FOR THEIR LOVE ???

I Salute the Army Men, their love & their Family !!! I Salute our Motherland !!!

This entry is part of contest from Indiblogger.in & British Airways.

One more such story on how far you can for someone you love is below :

Fun always ends with "Lime" - The Bacardi Breezer

Breezer is a fruit wine-based alcopop with 2% alcohol in India. Its available in many flavors like Jamaican Passion, cranberry, blackberry crush, island pine apple, orange, lime and many others. As you can see below.

Even though I have noticed breezer is more popular among ladies, but its liked by men too. Out of all those flavors I personally prefer Lime. 

 Coz its my choice baby ...yay yay....on a serious note, post drinks many of us prefer lime soda. 
But why Bacardi Lime ? 
I see "Lime" The Bacardi Breezer to be great replacement for lime soda. The taste is really nice. It has a perfect blend of lime flavor and being a little tangy and  fresh. Even if you see the way its packaged it looks very niche. 

Does it means its just my personal choice, thats it. No...Lemon-lime soda is a good cure for hangovers, according to a new study. A group of researchers has concluded that while some beverages shouldn't be consumed after drinking a lot of alcohol, lemon-lime soda should be consumed.
Various alcoholic beverages containing different concentrations of ethanol are widely consumed, and excessive alcohol consumption may result in serious health problem. The consumption of alcohol beverages is often accompanied by non-alcohol beverages, such as herbal infusion, tea and carbonated beverage to relieve drunk symptoms.

So just instead of having a lemon-lime soda or any other Bacardi breezer, I will prefer - "Lime" The Bacardi Breezer. It 

• Tastes great
• Have a lesser alcohol %age (~2%)
• Relieve drunk symptoms

So whenever you party make sure you end all the fun with a good taste that keeps your blue away !!!

For more info. please visit BREEZERINDIA.COM

P.S. This post is an entry to a contest held by Bacardi and Indiblogger.

Aaaooo VOTE Karee !!!!

In this world, with good tele-density of mobile phone, mobile apps could be a great tool to mobilize Indian Youth. Generally, its believed that people from upper middle class & upper class don't vote for some or the other reason. At the same time, its also assumed that this is the same segment which have smart phone with various mobile apps. So, in short mobile apps should be able to help/influence them to cast their votes.

Wow ....so simple to say this? But is that simple, I believe NOOO. Interestingly, once the day of the election passes, you ask any of your friends - Did you cast your vote? Answer will not start with "N" in NOOO, it will start with "O" with "N" silent in NOOO. They will give you various reasons like

• OOOh, too much work pressure, was in office.
• OOOh, I missed it, you could have reminded me.
• OOOh, I forgot.
• OOOh, I don't have a voter ID card.
• OOOh really, does it really matter, if I vote.
• OMG, do you think one vote really matters.
• Oooh, all candidates are corrupt.
• Ooh, give me a break, there was a such big queue. 
• ......blah .... blah...blah

Now what could be done? I will suggest few steps which can be done, it will not make it 100% conversion, but at-least will improve the conversion.

• Why to reach/Vote? Every vote counts. Its just not for the sake of casting, its for accessing your rights. Its for letting world know that you have a say. Its for letting all know that your opinion counts and your issues are to be taken seriously.If the top policy makers need to take notice that we are demanding and they can just sit for some years and not be accountable. They need to know that we need better jobs, better roads, safer streets, better facilities and they are accountable for all their decisions. What they spend is our money & right, its our right to know where are they spending and if its for good of public and power holders. Its for us to say them - "WE HAVE THE POWER  & YOU OWE US YOUR FUTURE POSITION TO SERVE US".

• How to reach? Leverage the medium of connectivity of all these scattered people? But how, if not all but most of them have mobile apps like WeChat and public profile's like Facebook. Reach through them. This medium is also one of the low costs medium to reach a big mass of people as it will rely on social network. So medium is known.

• When & what to reach for? This is very important. If we launch a compaign, lets vote today now, does it count? It will have no meaning as voting is in 2014. So do we wait? Answer is no, to be able to vote one needs to various things. Based on the research from Election Commission (EC) and also various news articles & media, its because of two major reasons other than so-called personal reasons - 

• They are unregistered.
• They have shifted from one place to another for reasons like job, education, etc

         So we need to remind them through all the process during different timelines educating in parallel about the electoral rights as follows.

1. Asking them to register or enrol in electoral(Start with this)
• Steps for how to register in case of first time voter, overseas voter, location or electoral details correction, etc
  
2. Once they are registered ask them to invite at-least 10 of their friends to register .
• Add a stars to their profile, based on the referrals who registers.
• Make these users look good & feel they are contributing back in awareness.
• Show a leaderboard (national, regional, local) which shows the leaders who got their electoral registered. 
3. Know your candidates - Once election dates are near, based on GPS, send the details of local MP candidates and their details. User will have an option to write questions to them and top 50 questions (based on likes / counts) will be sent to them in an open letter which they have to respond to in 10-15 days before elections.
   
4. Reminder for the election dates and adding them into users mobile calendar with reminders.
5. Usage of mobile app for location/map of their booth with directions based on GPS.
6. Integrity, Security & Safety : In case of any wrongful events like booth capturing, Live streaming of events using mobile camera to news media along with multiple SMS'es to police, hospital and friends.
7. After election, a pic share to all friends with a election ink in fingers, asking question did you vote? With possible compaigns like - "Pappu can't votee saalaa, Are you Pappu". A special sign in pictures similar to Online/away - showing people who voted as green and thos who don't with red.
   

I believe, if we do all the above it help achieve better turnout in the elections with free & fair elections. At the same time educating the citizens about their candidate and possible better governance in future.

AAoooo VOTE Kareee.......LETS VOTE.

Love Marriage ya Arranged Marriage!

Its very difficult to say which one is better "Love Marriage Ya Arranged Marriage". Which path to choose? One may say Left is better, One may say right but I prefer Center (hybrid).

I have many married friends, some are happily married, some are burdened by marriage & some are tamed by marriage. (Won't categorize them based on path chosen)

Lets proceed it in same way as Life-cycle of a person.

Pre- Teen:-

Before becoming teenager, many of us have fallen in love with our school teacher or a fellow class mate or one's neighbor? (I am not bringing in age factor of the other person to keep it simple.)

Suppose you are that child.You believe  you are in love and you have watched many Bollywood movies, which shows love is followed by marriage. Now you demand/plan to get married, should one agree? I don't think so. For child's understanding he might be in love (may be actually he is), but none can say with certainty if it's love or "bacch panna"/childishness ? Most of us prefer to see those kids enjoy their childhood (study/play/smile....) instead of facing the hardship of marriage for which they are not yet ready.

At the same time, if the elders also plan to get a child married to another person (Child / Adult / Old person), should one agree?  I expect the same answer here - No. One good example is a popular soap in "Ballika Vadhu". Which sometimes is even a reality.

In short, this is not the right age. If you look at bigger picture, it can cause other problems like exploitation, harassment, domestic violence and other socio-economic factors.

Teen to Adulthood (till one earns and is ready to take care of responsibilities):-
Many of the folks in this age group will claim to love a superstar say "Shah Rukh" or a cricketer say "Virat Kohli" or someone like "Sunny Leone" or "Katrina Kaif".

Some may even leave their home to find "this true love" of theirs, some may even express their feelings before the photographs of "their love" and perceive it to be heard. Some may love a boxer or footballer or swimmer or a dancer from their school or neighborhood. Many will have "Love at first sight". Many people will claim to be in love even though they have never talked directly face-to-face, probably a letter friend or just a chat friend. Most of the times its not love - its attraction or infatuation or lust or perception of one's desire rather than a reality. Many of the folks in the same phase gets $exually involved sometimes resulting in other issues like Teenage pregnancy. Don't think love marriage is desirable (even if both are actually in love) when none of them can take responsibility of even one's own.

Even Arranged marriage won't work well here. For me, this period is not to think about marriage.

Adulthood (ready to take responsibilities):-
Love Marriage:-
If you have reached a stage where you are not dependent on your parents and you are deeply in love "either real or perceived as real", you are free to go ahead legally - Its your life , Its your choice.
No doubt it will have its advantages like both the person will know each other very well in advance,  in this respect it scores above arranged marriage. But at the same time, there are possible issues post-marriage when its not approved by parents.
Firstly, the couple is on their own, as most of the times they are disowned or choose to stay separately from their parents.
Second, if there are any problems between life-partners in future or any other crisis, many of the times parents from either side won't support morally or financially. Also one of the partners might not even have a place to go.
Third, generally I have observed that tendency to compromise is much less but expectation from one's partner is much more.
Fourth, most of the people do point at high divorce rates for love marriage compared to arranged marriage, indicating reduced chances of success in comparison to arranged marriage.

Here the couple knows the path & the partner but they have to proceed at their own risk, with least outside support.

Arranged Marriage:-
In this form of marriage, couples doesn't know much about them and are brainwashed in a sense to find ways to love their partner, which may or may not happen. As they don't know much about each other, there is not much level of comfort between them. But in case of any crisis or issues, one would have many people to rely on or for help to resolve it. Probably, this is the reason its considered safer (but may not be comfortable at the beginning).
If you never fall in love, before or its not feasible for you to marry your love, then this is option you have (unless you plan to be bachelor for life). Family arranged marriage is better than searching for your own life-partner in JeevanSathi.com or some other matrimonial site (though not necessary).

If your partner has died before you, at some point of time you may need a partner, (think old man/woman) , you may not want to wait long for love to happen again. Arrange marriage works better here (options are less).

Here the couple doesn't know partner, but knows path to go forward with lots of help available in need.

Evolution
But I think, nowadays both arranged marriage & love marriage have evolved and have become a bit of hybrid. E.g.

• Love marriage converted to Arrange Marriage - (Best option) - When the couple is able to convince the parent from both the sides.
• Arrange Marriage with consent (from both bride & groom) & courtship period - a chance to know each other before hand. (Better - helps in transition)
• Live-in Relationship - People in love staying together without marriage. ( At-least personally I don't endorse it. I just know that I won't like my kids or my sisters to take this path, so I would do the same. Even though many will say whats wrong in it. I just know that I don't want to be a hypocrite by desiring to be in a live-in-relationship, at the same time, I don't want any of my female family members to take this route. For me exception here is senior citizens). Not to miss the legal & social ramifications of Live-in relationships in India.

I will just conclude, if you get a real love and it works out for you go ahead and try your love (with less/no help around).
If you are not lucky enough to find a real love or its not working out for you, go ahead and try your  luck (with some help around).

Remember all marriages are made in heaven and none of them are perfect. So just chill and be yourself.

This post has been published in response to "Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage " by Indiblogger and Sony Entertainment Television. www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange